Beauty is skin deep. The eyes get locked on someone, whose beauty appeals. We do read stuff like inner beauty, which to me, is a play of words. None can defy the fact that what easily catches the eye is the look of a person... the first glimpse, that is simply visible to the eyes. So, we find that many beautiful people are privileged to enjoy benefit of special treatment in all that they do. A good look may give a better first impression at the interviews. You may find people interested in listening to what a lovely person has to say about a topic. Beautiful faces get more attention too, be it a party or even in schools and colleges. Remember that beautiful girl and boy being chosen by the teachers to present the bouquets to chief guest? And that good looking colleague who did not get scolded by the angry boss, while others were warned quite harshly... Was it luck, you sure? So, that's how it works, the unfair world we live in!
But then, even if we find ourselves not so beautiful in looks, its not that sad, and its not the end of world. And its definitely not about pity, nor about the play of words, like inner beauty and stuff like that to make you feel better, for the heck of it. Its about accepting 'a trait' and doing your best for all that matters to you! Its knowing how the nature balances everything in some way or the other, so that the overall equation remains quite fair for each one of us. Someone is tall and athletic, but with bland features, while other may be short and plump, but cute. One may be fair and lovely, next may be dusky and sexy. One may have nothing other than grace, enhancing a simple being to a beautiful persona. And vice-versa, even an amazing man may have such a harsh tone of voice, so as to repel all. Another one may have a sweet voice to take away all attention from the timid features. Everyone does have a feature to boast about n another to keep it as a personal disaster. One likes her beautiful long hair, another may like his short, fluffy volumous hair style. It's for sure, check about your ownself and, nevermind, you don't have to share!
Time to Think: If only our eyes saw souls, instead of bodies, how very different our ideals of beauty would be!
Additionally, I always find it dumb to tell someone that don't be bothered about your looks, instead look at your inner abilities that make you beautiful. NO, your inner abilities might make you capable, liked, skillful or talented... These are other aspects, not beautiful what the word means.... And the dictionary define it aptly as "Delighting the senses or exciting intellectual or emotional admiration". So what to do? Well, taking just the looks into consideration, some people like actors, beauty queens and also many human beings who are not even celebrities are blessed with flawless skin and lovely features... To an extent that they look amazing even at the middle of night and even when worst dressed or messed up. They might be the lucky ones who never have to bother about how they look. But for others its quite a task, to keep some time, in any venture, to put an effort to look good. That is very much in our control. To put ourselves in a presentable and good manner. To dress up properly, in a way that you feel comfortable, feel good about how you look at that very occasion or a particular day, and also feel confident about being at YOUR best! It will surely upbeat your mood and fill you with joy and confidence in whatsoever the venture is. And this is true for each and every sole person. Haven't you heard that even on the worst of your days and moods, "Get up, Dress up and Show up!" and you certainly pull through any challenges in a better way.
On second thoughts, the so called beautiful people might also turn out to be very talented and likeable. Beauty only adds up to the overall persona they have. While a few beautiful beings lack on other things so very very much, that people find them quite boring and good for nothing in some time. So, the basic idea is that "beauty" is just an initial trait, not an absolute thing! Specially in the present scenario, with masks on every face, its really gone for a toss. The focus might be shifted to the eyes, may be. And we would find love stories based on "beautiful eyes"... The big ones, small ones, the blues, greens, browns and blacks, the quiet ones or the eloquent ones... N after the eyes lock on someone, you do get interested and notice other things including body language, behaviour, dressing-up sense, choice of things to do, voice and how you speak and what you say, your thoughts about something etc before absolutely liking or disliking a person.
With time and age, slowly we get to see things with added wisdom. We soon realise that the saying beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, holds true. The same view or person or may be a scenary or place is described differently by various people. And this trait of "being beautiful" loses its value to "being yourself"! Your focus changes from what others see in you, to, what you see in your own self.
The beauty of ugliness is that it makes you think deep - Soul Speaker
In the present scenario, when I see and read about the acid attack victims, its so much of pain even to see their suffering. The most beautiful faces and beings, ruined to the ugliest of creatures... and my heart goes out to those alive, what daily torture and pain - emotional, mental, physical, and social - they are subjected to, for the rest of their remaining lives. But we have fighters... Those, once beautiful faces, also get to focus on how better human beings and beautiful souls they have always been. They now see how capable they are even with a ruined trait, they now know who truly cares, who truly loves, they know how others feel on occasions of being chosen or discarded.... They now feel so much, understand much more, know like never before! This is just an example, an unfortunate incident... a sudden disease Or may be an accident, it may bring out similar experience...! For those, the idea of being beautiful might only be now limited to be 'like all others'... Just okay... Normal, not to be distinguished in a crowd due to the ugliness! The one with a burnt face, one with a damaged eye, or the one who limps etc. Beauty means such different things to different people. Being unique is also beautiful, isn't it? And this Corona Crisis has very well established one thing about beauty...
It is up to YOU, to find beauty, even in the ugliest of people, the ugliest of things, and the ugliest of days !
The best thing is to play with the logic that IF beauty is skin deep, so is ugliness. The true persona is beyond skin. Life is huge, beyond such limitations. Make the best of it. Free yourself of the self created ideologies of how one should look. Instead look beyond. Traits of humanity that will lead to create a better world awaits us! Do your share, shine through... Stay beautiful, feel happy, do it !!!💐
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Watching news is like watching our own story proving the Darwin's Theory of "Survival of the Fittest". And the 'fittest' here means the one who is "alive" putting all odds behind. There is no fair rule of this gameplay. You might be a gym goer and fitness freak, but dead in a couple of hours as you were an asymptomatic carrier of virus. Or a poor undernourished kid whose immune system is so developed, that it has no effect of the deadly virus over poverty. You may be an alert corona warrior serving as a police, doctor, banker, health worker, essential supply vendor, volunteer or whatsoever... Or just a home-staying ordinary citizen of the globe... A celebrity or a migrant worker, a leader or a daily wage labourer... We are all facing the same storm of epidemic in our own capacity : some riding the boat of hunger, poverty, struggle for livelihood, while others sailing on a ship of uncertainty, despair, fear!!! Rather it's a cyclone of unprecedented events. All are feeling helplessly bound into containment, neither you can reach out, nor the hope comes in!Mind it, it's across the globe. No longer bounded by geographical, climatic and political boundaries. It's purely death versus life. And the worst news is that it has not just charred our social, political, economic, financial, medical institutions and infrastructures but has affected our inner well being, accelerated the mental boggling and has put each individual into an emotional trauma like never before. Yesterday, the 14th of June, 2020 was a peculiar day in this context with the death of the iconic young hero Sushant Singh Rajput. At the age of 34 years, he seems to have rushed through life and gone too soon. Not that any death is less tragic, and not that the sacrifices of real life unsung heroes doesn't effect me, BUT I chose to talk about this particular episode of 'suicide' for a very specific reason that will unfold underneath. How Corona phase is adding up to depression, aloofness and aiding to suicidal tendency needs to be accepted and worked upon.Like everybody else in this Corona Lockdown Phase, I have been a little disturbed, confused, restless, sad and not feeling well, but I am even more so after this suicide news outbreak. I am sure, most of us are affected similarly. Not that I was a great fan or something BUT seeing his young smiling face and watching his story of a full life, as clearly visible - a handsome well-educated healthy wealthy joyous ambitious successful young man, it's quite a huge disappointment to see him end on such a sad note! With a simple connection of belonging to Patna, or once sharing the same school, or something so trivial, one feels proud to be associated with rising stars like him. His untimely and unnatural demise, took the existing corona despair intensified by leaps and bounds. People got stuck to this news, as is clearly seen on media and condolence messages from all prominent personalities. And the only echoing screeching word is "WHY"??? What for? This WHY extends to 'NOT the cause of death as established by his postmortem report'. This "WHY" connects to the realisation that we as humans are not knowing a lot of things, and we understand nothing. Uncertainty has taken it's course, and we do not even have a vague clue of where the world is heading to... What are we all up to?Being alive? Is that all? What for? What to hope? What should be our wish? What should we feel? Being rich, successful, healthy, wealthy, educated, popular all this and many more answers doesn't seem to fit in. Nothing seems to be an appropriate answer... This news, as I said earlier, will have a huge impact on the mental health of all those who come across it. Nevertheless, it's always tough to forget smiling young faces of tragic disasters. It's so disturbing and so depressing, beyond words. It is bound to shake the roots of human beliefs and aspirations of life. Importance of things and priorities got to change for everyone now, post Covid. But none seem to know what's right and what's not. The way ahead is far and unclear. Sometimes it feels as if the world is coming to an end. On a better day it seems as if once after reaching the peak of disaster, peace will resume. But till then we have to experience all this, roll the dice of this real life game like the movie Jumanji, learn new lessons and survive the game. And the risk involved is losing your one life.The new phase, drastically different from our so called normal life before Covid appeared in our lives, has added a new dimension to people globally. The senior citizens all over the world are in awe, because it was time that they were preparing themselves to deliver all their wit and experience to the next generation. But they faced this unusual Covid phase, and it changed all life values and learnings upside down. It's like starting the game all over again. All previous rules of living lose their importance. These oldies are in new school, learning the skills of living a new life at 60,70 or 80. And they are now the classmates of the newly borns and the primary kids. This young generation has experienced this phase at such a tender age that it will stay with them for their lifetime. This masked life too can happen, this is the present and near future living condition. Being alive is most important, rest all comes later.... We need to be humane, we must help the needy, we must protect ourselves as this is deadly, how we can keep ourselves creatively engaged in home for so long, the online schooling and studies, video conferencing with family and friends, online bills submissions, life without malls, theatres, shopping, partying, hanging out etc... The kids got a hang of all this and already adapted to it. They will survive with greater acceptance to this chaos as the 'new normal', than most of us. At an age of around 5, kids know terms like COVID-19, containment, quarantine, isolation, social distancing, lockdown, and much more. And we have no resources to save them from knowing what death is, what is moratorium, suicide, postmortem, depression, mental health etc. We got to talk to them and resolve their curiosity about everything happening around to the best of our abilities. We have to responsibly make these tiny tots understand what is needed, to avoid any uncalled for situations arising out of false stories and confusion. Too much is at stake. We have to take the lead to embrace each other, and try our best to keep going. We are in middle of history being made. It's dark, but small sparkles of hope here and there will only make it conducive. Let's just keep moving. This too shall pass. Yes, every cloud has a silver lining!For Sushant, may God give him the peace that he might be looking for.... Though what he chose was to become a distant shining star, and alert this world of more emotional and mental turmoil on way... I fear and suspect many more people falling prey and unsettling situations in store. We should keep alert for our ownselves and for our contacts, sensitive towards any sign of unusual mental health. Precaution is better than cure, and in case of death, there is no cure! We have to get out of our shells and restrictions and reach out to each one we care about, by being available emotionally. We can do nothing by analysing the 'Suicide Note' if found. And even that note is flawed, because the one writing it, is aware of the hypocrisy of human kind... What impact will it have on those who will be left behind? Sometimes there is so much to say and reveal, that one doesn't have words and expressions, it feels easier to let go and say nothing. Depression sinks in. This Corona has this far reaching depression effect, and this dangerously puts all human kind exposed.
